Top Five Hard Complementarian Articles of 2012

Following the brilliant The Gospel Coalition, I’m going to give my Top Five Hard Complementarian Articles of 2012. Without further ado:

5. The Wife of Tim Keller:

Review of Rachel Held Evans, A Year of Biblical Womanhood

What was especially important about this article was that it was by a lady hard complementarian who tells feminist Christians that men should take on all the main roles in the church. I’d have said it myself but you know what they’re like!

It has been cleared by the National Association of Hard Complementarians that lady Christians can write book reviews. While they do not meet the criteria discernible from the Scriptures for doctrinal matters, they can be regarded as “useful writings” and even quoted if restricted for purposes of general edification. Therefore we may quote The Wife of Tim Keller: “a godly woman’s husband has honor and a good name in society.”


4. Denny Burke:

My Review of Mark Driscoll’s “Real Marriage”

Denny reviews ‘Mark Driscoll’s “Real Marriage’, which he rightly excludes the name of the co-author, The Wife of Pastor Driscoll. What was a real lifesaver for me was this question on sodomy in the martial bed which I read just in time (thanks Denny!): “What about a husband for whom such an activity might stir up homosexual desires that he has never experienced before engaging in this activity with his wife?” He later clarified his position: “I was trying to raise the possibility that it might also arouse unbiblical passions in men who have no past background.” Phew!


3. Rebecca Merriman:

“Rihanna and Chris Brown: Their Road to Reunion”

Celebrity hard complementarian couple, Chris Brown and Rihanna, have been viciously criticised by the liberal media after Chris disciplined her. Some were angry because Chris had to pick up trash from a highway as punishment. And they were right – but not in the way they think. Chris shouldn’t have been disciplined by secularism and Rihanna had no right using secularism to condemn Chris – she should have gone to her local pastor if she felt Chris was acting beyond his remit. And it was Chris – or rather God – who gave this story a happy ending: “I am seeking the counselling of my pastor, my mother and other loved ones and I am committed, with God’s help, to emerging a better person.”


2. Pastor Randy Hawk

“Could John Piper’s Advice on Wife Abuse Lead to Soft Complementarianism? Perhaps.”

While I wouldn’t ordinarily dare challenge one of the greatest hard complementarians of our times, I was deeply worried Brother John was going to stop physical disciplining of the wife, by the husband, in a martial relationship.


1. Jared C. Wilson (The Gospel Coalition):

“The Polluted Waters of 50 Shades of Grey, Etc.” (link removed)

This terrific post included the much neglected words of Pastor Douglas Wilson’s on martial sex: “A man penetrates, conquers, colonizes, plants. A woman receives, surrenders, accepts”. Sadly the link has, mysteriously, disappeared. Some egalitarians, feminists, soft complementarians and wo/manist critics like Michael Bird had some issues with this plain-meaning-of-scripture-language to which Denny Burk rightly countered: “Your “link between sex, language, and power” concedes too much to the feminist metanarrative. “Power” is a watchword for feminism, which is a worldview that is rooted in deconstructing inequities of “power.” For feminists and egalitarians, all gender hierarchies are inherently evil…It will always amount to the oppression and abuse of women, whether or not it has anything to do with sex. This is a worldview that is incompatible with a Biblical worldview. I think you concede too much to that point of view.”


Book review: Spencer, Salty Wives

My attention has been drawn to this new book which I will now review.

F. Scott Spencer, Salty Wives, Spirited Mothers, and Savvy Widows (Eerdmans 2012)

Engaging feminist hermeneutics and philosophy in addition to more traditional methods of biblical study, Salty Wives, Spirited Mothers, and Savvy Widows demonstrates and celebrates the remarkable capability and ingenuity of several women in the Gospel of Luke. While recent studies have exposed women’s limited opportunities for ministry in Luke, Scott Spencer pulls the pendulum back from a negative feminist-critical pole toward a more constructive center.

Granting that Luke sends somewhat “mixed messages” about women’s work and status as Jesus’ disciples, Spencer analyzes such women as Mary, Elizabeth, Joanna, Martha and Mary, and the infamous yet intriguing wife of Lot — whom Jesus exhorts his followers to “remember” — as well as the unrelentingly persistent women characters in Jesus’ parables.

This book probably has pros and cons. My view is that it is valuable but should be used with care because it might have traces of a softer complementarian position. Let me explain why.

  • Luke does not send “mixed messages” about women.
  • Eerdmans is good but it isn’t as trustworthy as IVP.
  • I’m not particularly happy that the author has felt the need “to engage” with feminist hermeneutics and philosophy, even if it restores the more constructive hard complementarian center. That sort of thinking can be safely ignored, not “engaged”. Would you “engage” with Hitler, al-Qaeda, the Taliban, or the anti-gun nuts? No, thought not.
  • I am happy that the author has criticized the exposing (and “exposing” is exactly the right language) by Liberal Bible Scholars that Luke was a feminist and believed that women had “limited opportunities for ministry”. Luke was a hard complementarian who loved women through his medical ministry.
  • I am happy that more traditional methods of biblical study are used. Frankly, too many Liberal Bible Scholars have ignored J. I. Packer for far too long so it is good to see him being used in a book that will be read by them. Of course, hard complementarians never stopped using Pastor Packer. Some soft complementarians claim they never stopped but then they don’t have a problem with ladies teaching women so I doubt it every much.

But I’m particularly endorsing this book  (with all due qualifications) because “salty wife” is how I describe my wife after what I have done to, all over and sometimes in, her when I colonize her in the martial bed (on which see Pastor Mark Driscoll with Mrs Mark Driscoll and Jared C. Wilson and The Gospel Coalition). And she has never once complained.

– Pastor Randy Hawk

To the Brethren in The Gospel Coalition: Where art “The Polluted Waters of 50 Shades of Grey, Etc.”?

Now Christmas Day is over, it is time to reflect on the year. And what a year 2012 was!

For my reviews of the year I avoid the secular liberal media and turn straight to The Gospel Coalition (TGC). However, for some reason TGC’s “ten of our most popular articles of 2012” doesn’t even mention THE obvious TGC article of 2012 by Jared C. Wilson (“The Polluted Waters of 50 Shades of Grey, Etc.”) which included Pastor Douglas Wilson’s important reaction against those (e.g. egalitarians, soft complementarians and other feminists) who have forgotten biblical concepts of true authority and submission. As he described martial sex: “A man penetrates, conquers, colonizes, plants. A woman receives, surrenders, accepts”. This article was hugely popular and widely discussed on the internet so why didn’t it make the Top Ten?

The only reason I can think of is a technical hitch because I can’t find the link anymore. I hope this gets fixed soon and that the article gets restored to the Top Ten immediately (we all want to know if it came first!). This is tactically important because unbelievers might claim a (hollow) victory by suggesting that the Wilsons and TGC actually succumbed to Liberal Humanist pressure and removed the link themselves. I know this latter suggestion is not possible because of Matthew 24.24: “For false christs and false prophets will rise and show great signs and wonders to deceive, if possible, even the elect”.

Bet let’s not fret over a mere hyperlink! There are some great memories from 2012 and TGC. Few of us will ever forget articles such as “How to Win the Public on Homosexuality“, “Don’t Take It from Me: Reasons You Should Not Marry an Unbeliever” (by The Wife of Tim Keller), “Why You Should Consider Cancelling Your Short-Term Missions Trips“, and my personal favourite, “Gay Is Not the New Black“.

– Pastor Randy Hawk

Could John Piper’s Advice on Wife Abuse Lead to Soft Complementarianism? Perhaps.

John Piper (and a woman)

John Piper (and a woman)

John Piper has been an outstanding defender of Biblical norms for men and women, standing as a bulwark against the great tide of recent liberalism and postmodernism. In a recent blog post at desiringGod, brother John discusses cases in which the physical discipline of a wife may cross the gray line into the realm of unacceptable and un-Christian violence. Brother John has previously advised that these matters be kept within the boundaries of the family or church. He advised that a wife might see fit to endure “being smacked one night” and then to seek help from the church:

But John now sees certain cases which permit a woman to call law enforcement agencies without challenging the headship of her husband. But is he right, or is this a dangerous concession to liberal thought?

John rightly points out that submission is a principle not only of a wife’s relationship to her husband, but also of “children to parents (Ephesians 6:1), citizens to government (Romans 13:1), wives to husbands (Ephesians 5:22), employees to employers (2 Thessalonians 3:10), church members to elders (Hebrews 13:17), all Christians to each other (Ephesians 5:21), all believers to Christ (Luke 6:46).” And so, some of these duties may come into conflict from time to time, needing to be resolved with the wisdom which is found only in the Scriptures and from the indwelling of the Holy Spirit. I note that John doesn’t mention the submission of slaves to masters (Ephesians 6:5), but that is another area which the Bible commands submission. I am not questioning the decision in the past of U.S. slaves to rebel against their masters, but I will note in passing that this should have been decided on a State-by-State basis and was never within the constitutional jurisdiction of the Federal Government and is just another instance of Big Government imposing its beliefs on individuals.

That aside, brother John is right that a wife should not go to the police for the odd slap. I mean to say, imagine if Mrs. Hawk had gone to the police on the few occasions that she has spoken out of turn to me in our forty-three years of marriage, when I did no more than brush her with the back of my hand (and it hurt me to do so, more than it hurt her)! I would be locked up now with the real criminals! Never did I step over the line into wonton violence.

Where John should be careful, however, is in saying that it is acceptable for a wife to call the police on her own husband. Here is how he approaches this issue of a husband who has been excessively violent to his wife, whether in discipline or in lashing out to her:

A Christian woman should not feel that the only help available to her is the police. That would be a biblical failure of her church…. Recourse to civil authorities may be the right thing for an abused wife to do. Threatening or intentionally inflicting bodily harm against a spouse (or other family members) is a misdemeanor in Minnesota, punishable by fines, short-term imprisonment, or both. Which means that a husband who threatens and intentionally injures his wife is not only breaking God’s moral law, but also the state’s civil law. In expecting his wife to quietly accept his threats and injuries, he is asking her to participate in his breaking of both God’s moral law and the state’s civil law.

I acknowledge this is a curly question. But I am not convinced by John’s argumentation. Until the late Nineteenth Century, it was perfectly legal for a husband to physically discipline a woman in this country, provided it was not excessive in the way that the Muslim excessively disciplines his wife (or wives!) today in the Middle East. So on his reasoning, as soon as the Federal Government and its liberal courts opposed even the mildest forms of physical disciplining (and in so doing undermined both male authority in the household and the Constitution), we also have to set aside the Word of God when it affords authority to the male in the Christian household. Can this be right? Back when it was legal to administer moderate physical discipline to a wife, would John Piper agree that a wife had no recourse to law enforcement and should have merely been submissive back then? And so are we to make obedience to the Word of God subject to the passing of unconstitutional, humanistic laws? As is well known, liberals have used legislation in order to undermine the authority of males and the family unit for over a century now, all in the name of Humanism. But who is the greater authority: God or the State?

Brother John bases his argument on human law, but there is at least some doubt as to whether these humanistic laws are contrary to the protection of individuals offered in the Constitution, and therefore they may not be laws at all.

John admits that a woman may “turn the other cheek” to her husband’s physical discipline, and in so doing follow the Word of God. He rightly describes this as a “path of love open to those who are persecuted”. But then he muddies the waters by giving other options, including fleeing. But where is the submission in fleeing from the leader of the household?

Let me be perfectly clear, I am just as concerned as John Piper to “make it part of the culture of manhood in the church that the men will not tolerate the abuse of any of its women.” Yet this should not mean abandoning the divine sanction for male leadership in the household or disobeying the biblical injunction for physical discipline.

– Pastor Randy Hawk

There is no “I” in Complement

A common mistake made by those who like to caricature Bible-believing Complementarians is to call them “Complimentarians” (with an “I”).

But there is no “I” in complement, which means (according to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary), “something that fills up, completes, or makes perfect.” Yes, this is the honor which we bestow on our women. They make us perfect! And there is no higher compliment (with an “I”).

For our opponents confuse the word “complement” with the similar-sounding word “compliment”, which means “an expression of esteem, respect, affection, or admiration; especially: an admiring remark.” A “compliment” (not a complement) is the kind of thing that a Christian man should say to his wife, at least daily, especially if she has just had her hair done for him, or has made him a lovely meal, or for calming the kids down and getting them off to bed after they’ve been restless.

As I said in a sermon once, the reason there is no “I” in complement is because God asks wives to be selfless servants to their husbands, just as Jesus gave up his own self on the Cross for his church. But the traffic doesn’t flow all the one way on this. In return, a husband is asked to love and provide for his wife.

Remember: There is no “I” in complement!

– Pastor Randy Hawk

Beware the heretical views of Michael F. Bird, Bible-Denier

I know that some of you are familiar with the books by Michael F. Bird. Although Michael was formerly a defender of biblical truth on the complementary roles of men and women, I wish to inform you that he has turned from the narrow path. DO NOT READ ANY BOOKS BY THIS LIBERAL BIBLICAL SCHOLAR!!!

bourgeois-babesMichael Bird has exchanged biblical truth for a lie, now parroting the arguments of the Lezzo-Feministos rather than submitting to the Word of God. Last year, I had heard rumors from my contacts that he had joined the soft complementarian camp. But his latest book, with a lascivious title which I will not repeat here, all too readily demonstrates how the path of sin is a slippery slope toward perdition.

I have not read Michael Bird’s latest book, and will not, but I know that it is based on a misinterpretation of key biblical passages which affirm the different roles and functions for men and women within God’s plan for humankind.


– Pastor Randy Hawk


UPDATE: I find myself in the strange position of agreeing with The Feminist Scholarship who also refuse to name the book title.

Is God Unequal to Men and Women? Yes, and for the Great Benefit of Womenfolk

The scriptures clearly testify that woman was created to serve man, and man was created to love and cherish woman. Those who deny these truths ignore the clear witness of the Bible to this effect (e.g. 1 Corinthians 11:3; Ephesians 5:25), and so have no excuse. The Word of God is straightforward and true, unlike the convoluted attempts made by soft complementarians and the shrill voices of egalito-feminists which attempt to avoid the plain meaning of Scripture.

Nevertheless, there is a claim we often hear from soft complementarians and egalitario-feminists, who are more willing to listen to their own voices than hear the prompting of the Holy Spirit, is that these unbiblical positions are more “fair” towards ladies. This was the claim recently by Dirk Byrd who as many of you will know introduced division into the body of Christ this year by setting up his rival American League of Soft Complementarians. Although I find his exact point a bit unclear and confusing, involving some longwinded analogy about tennis, he does seem to be making the claim that the softening of God’s Word results in greater fairness towards womenfolk.

But is this really so?

To the contrary, it is only the uncompromising hard complementarian position, in obedience to ALL the scriptures, which can provide the full benefits God intended for women.

Let us read from Paul’s first epistle to Timothy, chapter 2 verse 15:

Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.

Here we see that God, in his infinite wisdom, has offered women a special means of salvation, to rescue them from the “even more” original sin of Eve (even more original than Adam, who as Genesis chapter 3 shows, sinned only after Eve had first sinned). But wait! Men cannot be saved by childbearing, can they? Well, anything is possible these days, given the perversions we see on the news each day, but in the time of Paul, when men were really men and not Thai lady-boys or some such abomination, that was the case. So in 1 Timothy 2:15, God is offering a means of salvation to women that he does not offer to men, if they fulfill their matrimonial role and function as the passive conduits of new life. I suppose the politically correct crowd would cry, “Wait! But that’s unfair. We’re all the same!” But God, taking into account the inherent weakness of the daughters of Eve, has provided a special means for them to be saved. If this is “unfair” (which is a worldly way of describing it), it is surely “unfair” in favor of women! Where are the protesting hairy-legged egalito-feminists, now? Suddenly they’ve all gone quiet!

So, yes – God does treat us differently, even in the most important matter of our eternal salvation. But it simply a fallacy to equate different treatment with unfair treatment.

Of course, although 1 Timothy 2:15 tells us that women may be saved in childbearing, we need to read what follows: “… if they continue in faith …”. And faith comes only by accepting the Lord Jesus Christ into your heart, which is the same if you are a man or a woman. But what Paul is telling us today is that those women who resist their God-given passive role of childbearing will also resist accepting Jesus into their hearts. They prefer giving their souls to the Devil over giving their bodies to their husband for his possession.

So the next time you hear some egalitario-feminist complain that the hard complementarian position is “unfair to women” you tell them back: “No! Hard complementarians believe in inequality; but only feminists believe in unfairness“.

– Pastor Randy Hawk